Welcome to Day Twenty-Two of Just Jot It January, where the prompt is: “contempt,” used any way we wish.
I thought I was going to write something different today, but then, instead, I jotted this in my journal, soon after waking:
January 22, 2017 -
Perhaps, on my father’s 77th birthday, it’s apt that I’m in the midst of an unfurling of revelation on how I’ll deal with interpersonal conflicts in my life, from this point forward.
I will begin with myself. Moving beyond myself before I’ve processed my own emotional content is irresponsible except in cases of imminent danger – and can actually prove explosive. First: I need to deal with what’s within me, or I risk treating the other with contempt.
And contempt does very little to resolve anything. As a matter of fact, contempt actually signals an unreadiness to resolve any situation from a position of seeking mutual respect – it says plain that I’m placing myself above the other.
It says that I’ve already decided that my own position has higher (or the only) value in all proceedings.
Contempt is an equality-killer.
Do you struggle with interpersonal conflict, too?
Have you held others in contempt?
Have you known you were contemptible in someone else's point-of-view?
Is there a better way?
I would love to hear your voice:
Thoughts, feelings, memories, respectful dissension?
The box below is for you - make it your own!